minor list changes

[Jay West]

I changed two things on the list setup tonight.

1) To subscribe to the list (new subscribers, not you guys), requires not 
only a confirmation email, but also list owner approval. I'm having way to 
much trouble with "people?" joining the list and all their email immediately 
bouncing. It gums up the speedy delivery for everyone else.

2) I changed the max time in queue for any message (outbound) to 35 minutes. 
This means the server will try to send email to you once, then again 30 
minutes later, and then it will just give up on you. It won't unsubscribe 
you at that point, it takes like 7 days of bounces to get you unsubbed. But 
it won't try to send you any given list post more than twice now. Same 
reason as above.

For those sendmail inclined.... I considered setting up a secondary queue 
for slow delivery where any emails that take longer than X time get moved to 
a low priority queue. Quite frankly, I don't want to deal with it. I'd just 
get more complaints about posts being out of order ;)

Jay